When an elf associates themselves romantically with another elf who is not on their Match Lists, they are deemed a Bad Match. The matchmakers give a hundred options per packet, with five packets total, so not choosing one of them may make your child not as "genetically pure" as they could be if you were to marry someone who was a match in your matchmaking packet. You might also marry somebody related to you accidentally if it's a bad match, which, considering the elves' indefinite lifespan, is a big possibility.
The Elves take a questionnaire to determine which elves are suitable for each other for marriage. The matchmakers work to make sure elves with different talents and physical features end up together. After all of the factors are taken into consideration, the matchmakers release a list of 100 names. There are five different lists that can be released, going from Top Tier, Second Contenders, Third Considerations, Fourth Runners-Up, and Final Alternatives.
When an elf marries another elf without their name being on their lists it is considered a 'bad match'. A bad match is when certain elves are classified as incompatible by the matchmakers. This happens when they are in the same gene pool, because one of the elves is Talentless (or a Pyrokinetic who is forced to pretend they're Talentless because their ability was banned), or if their personalities don't match.
Bad matches are one of the bigger prejudices in the Elvin world. Being a bad match often causes emotional distress. Since usually one of the members of a bad match is Talentless, people tend to treat them as lesser, such as seen with the Dizznees. Bad matches without talentless are also treated as lesser, though. People like Heks family often mock Dex's parents. With the case of Kesler and Juline, their "friends" started to avoid them and Juline was afraid to have children in case being a bad match affected them. Some elves think that if a couple that is a bad match has kids, they will have disabilities or be Talentless (which is usually not true). They also believe that if you have multiple children, that only the first child will be fully talented, and the rest will have issues (usually not true; see the Vackers,) though it might be due to the fact that as an immortal species, having too many children might be seen as detrimental to them, as they have already given most of Earth to the humans, which they mention reproduce extremely fast and in big numbers, by Elvin standards.
Leaders mismatch with coaches for a variety of reasons. They may not be sure what to look for when selecting a coach, or they may not even be given their choice of coaches. Whatever the cause, the coaching relationship may not work out and considering a new coach is important if leaders are determined to achieve the results they want.
Your responses to emotional meltdowns on the court, an uncharacteristic number of unforced errors in a match, losses to lower-ranked opponents and blown leads affect your mindset for upcoming training sessions and matches.
When you carry your images of defeat from the last match to the next match, it will feel like you are carrying a 20-pound weight on your back. You will feel sluggish, mentally and physically. You feel you are not capable of turning your game around.
At the 2020 US Open, Novak Djokovic had a disastrous match against Pablo Carreno Busta in the fourth round. Djokovic was disqualified from the match after unintentionally hitting a line judge in the throat after slamming a ball in a fit of anger and frustration.
Movement in a match is different. With your practice partner, you were grinding forehands out of the forehand corner, but in a match, you might have to sprint that way before contact, further complicating the footwork and preparation.
This means that, in order to really break a bad habit, you need to practice the correct version so much that you can perform it properly without mental focus, because, in a match situation, mental resources are so limited.
Fire up most WCW cards from the second half of 1999 or most of 2000 and you'll be met with some of the 'best bad' wrestling known to man. Shows like those could be considered almost iconically sh*te, but they didn't have just one terrible match.
Things peaked by the time he was rocking a hat and smoking cigars mid-ring during this match-come-angle vs. Goldust at an otherwise-top notch 'Good Friends, Better Enemies' show in April 1996. Diesel vs. Shawn Michaels rocked the house as the main, and other bouts like Vader vs. Razor Ramon clicked too.
The story is heard often. Student thinks instructor is ripping him off because he hasn't been signed off for a checkride. Student drops instructor. Student takes double the amount of instruction with a new instructor to get ready for the checkride. Students and instructors often are on different levels of understanding when it comes to the student's progress. Too often, the student thinks he's being taken for the proverbial ride as the instructor schedules lesson after lesson to prepare for a first solo, a checkride, or another big step in training. This can culminate in an uncomfortable situation when one day the instructor comes in to fly with his student, only to find that the student is flying with another instructor. But switching instructors is not always the right decision, and there can be significant consequences that should be considered before you make the switch. The first thing to realize is that while there are some bad apples, there aren't that many truly bad instructors out there. And there are even fewer dishonest instructors who see a student only as a source of income. There are, however, many bad relationships and instructor-student matches that make it difficult for the instructor to do his best work, and for the student to learn the most from the instructor. The key is knowing the difference between a bad instructor and a bad relationship, and knowing when to change instructors. It's acceptable to switch instructors because of a bad match. Professionalism is key The best way to begin evaluating the instructor-student relationship is to assess the instructor's professionalism. The list of qualities is long, but it can be pared down to a few basics. Does he show up on time? Instructors expect students to show up on time. If not, chances are the student is charged for being late. So why shouldn't students expect the same of instructors? An instructor who is frequently late is not looking out for the best interests of his student. Does he charge fairly? Some instructors feel that if a student schedules a lesson for two hours, that student will be charged for two hours. Others only charge for the time they actually spend with the student. There's no industry standard (see "CFI to CFI: Store of Value," p. 62). Understand which method your instructor uses, and be sure to check the bill and bring up any discrepancies. Mistakes in billing do happen, and it's partly the student's responsibility to make sure things are correct. Frequent, significant errors may point to an unsavory character trait of the instructor. Does he raise his voice or make inappropriate comments? This is a big one. There's no place in the cockpit for tempers, yelling, destructive comments, or anything else that makes the student feel uncomfortable. This is one area in which the student doesn't need to seek out advice, talk to the chief instructor, or wait it out to see if things get better. If the instructor makes you uncomfortable, drop him. Does he insist you only fly with him on every flight? In a recent post on the AOPA Online forums, a member said he flew with another CFI when his was out of town. He was close to his checkride and wanted to stay sharp while his instructor was on vacation. He scheduled with the owner of the flight school, only to have his CFI call and say he would never fly with him again if he went with the other instructor. Then the CFI proceeded to hang up on the student. If a CFI absolutely refuses to let a student fly with another instructor, there's something wrong. Most CFIs welcome the opportunity for their students to fly with someone else; some flight schools formalize the process with phase checks or stage checks with another instructor. It's a great confirmation that one's teaching skills are up to par. CFIs who exhibit the negative behaviors above have no reason to expect students to stay under their care. At the very root, the student is a client and the instructor is a service provider. There's no reason to stay with someone who can't exhibit even the most basic professionalism. A good instructor Aside from basic professionalism, there are sometimes preconceived notions that have to be overcome before switching instructors. Many student pilots have a bias against young or inexperienced teachers, perhaps thinking they haven't been around long enough to experience what they're teaching, or even learn how to teach very well. But before dumping an instructor because of a perception that he or she is too young to teach effectively, think about this: Young instructors often have the most enthusiasm and drive. Sure, they might be gunning for an airline job, but that doesn't mean they're doing a poor job of instructing. Most instructors who are striving to be an airline pilot are careful, dedicated, professional, and driven--just what the airlines are looking for. And most don't have a second job that conflicts with their instruction schedule. Before considering age or an instructor's career plans, think about how well they teach. Are they prepared for each lesson? Are the lessons well structured? These traits signify a good instructor. There are many indications of a great teacher, but one key is flexibility and the ability to adapt. Let's say a student is having trouble with landings. A bad instructor may simply yell at the student to try harder. Or he may grab the yoke from the student as he's preparing to land to prove a point. A good instructor, on the other hand, will think of new and different ways to teach the concept. He may start over with a ground briefing about the aerodynamics of landings. From there, he may take the student out to watch other landings and have the student judge what went well and what didn't. Then he'll take him up and practice the core set of skills in the practice area before returning to the airport to try again, and so on. If all else fails, he'll likely suggest the student fly with another instructor for a different perspective. The signoff A few instructors think of their students as cash cows. Get out of this situation as soon as possible because chances are it will continue for the entire training curriculum--and be especially bad at the end. The difficulty is knowing the difference between a bad relationship or instructor and an immoral one. When a disagreement arises about the student's progress, a student may believe he or she is ready to solo or take the practical test, whereas the instructor thinks more work is needed. This is normal. What is not normal is a situation in which an instructor continually schedules lessons even after saying the student is ready for the next phase, and offers no constructive feedback afterward. Before deciding to switch instructors, make sure to talk to the instructor's supervisor. This is usually a chief instructor at a larger flight school, or the owner at a smaller school. Chances are the supervisor will speak to the instructor and make sure he is doing his job and giving his students good, quality instruction. If not, it may be time to go beyond instructors and switch flight schools instead. Life after switching Switching instructors shouldn't be a decision taken lightly. Before deciding to do so, understand there are usually some negative effects. A new instructor will likely require a student to fly all the basic maneuvers before he provides a solo signoff. If the student was almost ready for the checkride, the instructor will probably require the student to complete a dual cross-country, solo cross-country, and extensive checkride preparation. This is only fair. A new instructor doesn't want to put his reputation and certificate on the line for a student he just started training. Starting anew with a different instructor often takes more time and money than sticking with the previous instructor, but there are exceptions. Our student on the AOPA forums who flew with a new instructor? "I made the best decision switching instructors," he said. Associate Editor Ian J. Twombly holds commercial pilot certificates for airplane single engine and multiengine land and single engine sea. He is also a flight instructor. Want to know more? Links to additional resources about the topics discussed in this article are available at AOPA Flight Training Online. Fire your flight instructorBy Dave Hirschman 041b061a72